Is Food a Bad “Ex-Lover”?

By Bonnie Pfiester, fitness trainer, and wife of fitness trainer Steve Pfiester, trainer for the reality tv show “Fat March”.

Obesity is so much more than a physical condition.

There are reasons people are overweight, many of which are purely psychological. This became extremely apparent on “Fat March”.

As Steve spent countless hours with the marchers, they had plenty of time to really search their heart for answers. Loralie’s description of her relationship with food was probably the most profound.

“Steve” Loralie said, “Food is like an ex-lover that is just no good for me. Not just any ex, but a really sexy ex. When I think about him (food) all I remember are the good times. I forget how much pain and guilt he would cause. And after an incredible night together full of passion he just leaves you crying on the living room floor in the fetal position full of guilt” “And yet, late at night… I still want him so, so bad”.

Like a real relationship, people often feel trapped in their overweight body. They feel they have no way out and no hope. Many times, like an unhealthy relationship, it just takes support and guidance. Without help it is easy to just give up and give in to simple pleasures that leave you “crying on the living room floor in the fetal position full of guilt”.

Also similar to unhealthy relationship, people can lose self-worth. Food, like an abusive husband, puts you down every time you indulge. Fat can make you feel unworthy and unattractive. Before you know it, you are just trying to accept things the way they are, only to live in a lifestyle that continues to make you miserable.

There is a way out and it starts with making a change. People often fear change because they fear failure. Women may stay in an abusive relationship because they fear failing. Whether it’s the fear of being alone or not being loved again, the fear of the unknown often keeps people in the known, no matter how bad it is.

There is nothing to fear, health and fitness is not a mystery. Fitness loves you more than any great tasting food. It doesn’t lie, it takes care of you, it rewards you - it is tried and true. You are absolutely no exception. It may take time, but most great things take time. The one thing I know for sure is nothing will change without making a change.

~Bonnie

Bonnie Pfiester is a Personal Trainer and owner of the health club Longevity Fitness. You can enjoy more of Bonnie’s fitness and beauty articles at www.BonniePfiester.com .

You are invited to leave your fitness and sports nutrition questions in the comments below for Bonnie to briefly answer or write about in future articles.

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