Can You Always Think Positive?
By Dr. Nicole Sundene
Can You Always Think Positive?
I am certainly trying.
I was raised on a thick Scandinavian-German dose of Murphy’s Law, and am described to have a “Death Valley DRY sense of humor sprinkled heavily with cynicism”.
Maybe I get my old man sense of humor from my Grandpa, or maybe it is just because I have been working in The American Sickcare System for the past nine years.
Sometimes it is really tough to stay positive.
“Keep your mind tightly closed to all negative influence.
Those negative influences can come from places you least expect;
friends, family and acquaintances.”
Sounds simple enough! So I decided to try it.
Positive thinking is crucial to any successful stress management program.
I am actively working hard to learn new ways to be more positive by following the advice from author’s such as Benny Greennberg from Ya-ttitude, Life Coach, Tim Brownson from A Daring Adventure, and my other favorite reads at Principles for Peace, ZenHabits, and Zenplease.
I work hard to read and test out their stress management tips so I can better share the simplest ways to live stress free.
In my opinion, closing yourself off to ALL negative thinking is the foundation to being positive and less stressed. Benny Greenwood’s Four Step Plan has it exactly right.
Being positive also means learning to just go with the flow.
For instance, the other day the cat puked all over my pile of clean laundry. Instead of getting upset, I decided to quickly see the positive in things and tossed the nasty mess straight in to the washing machine.
“Ha! Now I don’t have to fold and iron that whole mess today!” I thought, applying my goal to always strictly see everything as positive, as I washed my hands clean of the nasty mess.
Now if someone cynical like me can be more positive while cleaning up cat puke, then anyone can!
Try only seeing the positive in every situation for an entire month. See how that month then goes for you.
- Were you more productive?
- More happy?
- More pleasant to be around?
- Did you make new friends?
- Do more people like you now?
I know this is not about being more popular, it is about being more positive to reduce useless stress. Being more popular is just a fringe benefit to being more positive.
Do you know someone that could benefit from being more popular er…positive?
Who in your life could benefit from this stress management tip?
- That demanding perfectionistic boss?
- Irritating co-worker?
- Always agitated friend?
- Meddling mother in law?
- Cranky husband?
- Ungrateful child? (Mom please don’t send this to me…I promise I’m trying!)
E-mail them this article, or print it out and allow it to mysteriously “appear” on their desk, or somewhere they might be forced to find it.
The options are endless when it comes to how “positivity” and positive thinking can help us. I notice the immediate result for me with positive thinking, is that my attitude about life is just better.
I am instantly happier.
When I see the positive in a tough situation that once had me upset, I am learning from life. Maybe the lesson was hard. But learning the lesson and moving forward is one of life’s biggest positives. How else are we to grow?
Growth is positive.
Post note: During the final editing of this little uplifting article on positivity, I realized that I never remembered to TURN THE WASHING MACHINE ON! So the cat puke mess sat in there for three delicious hot summer days!
Oh my…well if someone can please help me see the positive in that, I would be most grateful. *shudder*
Ugh…“I am too blessed to be stressed”.
I will be busy reciting the positive person mantra until further notice.
Thanks for stopping by my kitchen table!